Ultimately, the power to transform your marriage is in your hands.
All relationships are unique but all require one thing: hard work.
There is a lot of relationship advice out there, from articles to videos. But, after 20+ years as a marriage advisor working with executives and their family, I found that work success can also translate into martial and committed relationship success.
Healthy relationships require just as much work and effort in order to be successful. In marriage, especially, the hard work doesn't stop at the wedding. It continues on until "death do us part".
Whether you're in a relationship or married, it's important for both partners to do their fair share and lift their weight in order to last a long time.
If you can put as much effort building your career as learning how to have a healthy relationship, you will achieve the same success.
Here are 10 ways to apply your hard working ethics to successful and healthy relationships.
1. Take responsibility for the health of your relationship
You and your spouse are responsible for the state of your marriage.
Acknowledge that your beliefs, choices, and behaviors all play a role in your relationship, and strive to make decisions that support your bond.
2. Exhibit the behaviors you hope to see in your spouse
If you want to be with a kind, considerate, and hardworking person, you too need to adopt these attributes.
Lay the foundation for a successful marriage by acting in a way that makes you proud. Show your spouse you love and respect them to nurture your relationship.
3. Give more than you hope to receive
Treat your partner the way you would like to be treated — and then go the extra mile.
Be the example, even if you do not believe your spouse is giving back what you are putting into the marriage. Live without expecting reciprocity.
4. Determine who you are
Clarity about who you are and where you are headed brings feelings of purpose and fulfillment.
By discussing what you want and encouraging your spouse to do the same, you will build a framework to evaluate your desired outcomes.
5. Continue building your relationship skills
Few couples put in the time to actively improve their relationship skills.
It’s important, however, that you work to continually strengthen your bond.
6. Advocate for your marriage or commitment
Society conveys that spouses should consider divorce when things are no longer "fun" or "easy".
Rather than accepting this outlook, view your marriage as the most important relationship you have. Remember that your union is sacred.
7. Commit to your partner
Marriage is an investment not only in your partner but also in your relationship.
Even when things become difficult, honor your commitment by putting in the work needed to sustain a healthy marriage.
8. Aim for personal growth
The challenges we face help us learn and grow. Couples who stay together through difficult times report that their marriages are happier and stronger.
Aim to improve yourself, and your marriage will improve too.
9. Learn from other successful relationships
Those who have not witnessed other happy marriages or committed relationships often struggle with their own relationships.
Remember that your example will give future generations a framework for their own success.
10. Remember that anything is possible
If you want to enjoy a thriving marriage, you must put in the time to nurture your relationship. This will not occur organically any more than your next raise or promotion. Pinpoint your goals and put in the work to achieve them.
Ultimately, the power to transform your marriage is in your hands. It is the result of the actions you take, for you have considerable power over your thoughts and attitudes.
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