I have always said that there is nothing wrong with breaking up or break ups. Once you enter into a relationship, the possibility of it ending should not be out of your thoughts. This is not to say that you should be paranoid. All I am saying is that do not rule out a break up but give the relationship your best shot.

Ladies like me, will move on easily after a break up because I believe the greatest part of dealing with it begins with your mind. Once your mind is made up, moving on will not be a problem…at all.

While there are some strong women like me, others aren’t . So I asked some women who have gotten over their break ups how they were able to move on and how long it took them.

“I found out that my boyfriend of three years had been cheating on me for two year, from that very moment everything and anything I felt for him was gone but it took me quite some time to get over it. I spoke about him everytime I was with friends or colleagues – even people I didn’t really know including my new suitors. Every guy I dated after our break up, knew about my ex. But after a while I noticed that people were not interested in hearing about my ex and so I made it a point not to bring it up. trust me it worked like magic…it didn’t take long for me to forget him” ….. (Maame)

“My ex and I spent a lot of time together even after we broke up. I couldn’t immediately let go because I didn’t want to be lonely. Even when I met a guy who loved me, I still spent time with my ex on several occasions. However it occurred to me after a while that I was being unfair to the new guy and I needed to give myself a chance to love again. This decision helped a lot and it didn’t take long before I moved on.”….(Pearl)

“I broke up with my ex but I for a long time I couldn’t get over the guilt. I can still remember, vividly the look on his face when I told him it was over. The expression of shock, anger and pain is something I dreamt about every night for months. For close to eight months I tried to stay friendly with him until I heard he had gotten a girlfriend, then I was totally done. I felt so relieved.”….(Grace)

“I have a problem with getting over any kind of loss. Thanks to social media ( well I don’t know if I should be thankful) my ex and I were still in touch for almost two years after we broke up. But I figured that the best thing to do was to move on in order to save myself and the little dignity I had left. I deleted every form of contact I had with him, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram…I even deleted his email address and this helped me to stop thinking about him eventually.”….(Catherine)

“I dated my ex for six years and after he broke up with me I was devastated. I couldn’t even get out of my house. It took me a year before I could shake off the sad feelings. I had some great friends and family who supported me through the tough time so released that there was more to live for than a guy who does not appreciate me. I put on my makeup, went back to work and now I’m in wonderful relationship.”….(Rachel)

"It took me just over a year to move on from a guy I dated. The first few months after the breakup, I thought it would be impossible to look at anyone else how I looked at him. But when I started to date again, I realized I could feel attracted to other guys. By the time a new year rolled around again, I was totally over him." ….(Rose)