Childlessness in marriage can be very depressing for couples and their families, and as devastating as it can get, the blame should not be shifted on just one party.

Unfortunately in situations like this, society seems to always shield men and put all the blame on women.

On the Secrets and Confession series on Joy Prime, a 41-year-old woman shared how she got pregnant for another man after 11 years of marriage with no child.

According to her, medical results had proven that she was OK but her husband refused to go for medical check-up, while family members all assumed she was the infertile one.

This had been eating her up all these years and the pressure from both families gets more intense by the day.

She said at one point the family got impatient and even brought in a second wife to be married to the husband, in the hope that she would be able to conceive.

“But since everyone believed that the cause of our childlessness in our marriage was me, I humbled myself and allowed the second wife to move in.”

“They got married three years ago and up till now, no show, no children. One day I asked my husband if maybe the problem was from him, and he didn’t give me an answer,” she said.

The woman who said she is scared of hitting menopause, decided to try her luck somewhere else just to test whether she is indeed infertile and thankfully, she said she `is pregnant for this other man but is scared to inform her husband about this.

“By the look of things, my husband may be the cause of our inability to have children and if I stay loyal to him, I just might live the rest of my life without a child.”

“Earlier this year, I met a man who showed interest in me and we went out on a few dates, our intimacy wasn’t really borne out of love but simply because I wanted to see if I was barren or not.”

“Needless to say, this man has been able to do what my husband couldn’t do for 11 years, after just a few months together, I am pregnant,” she said.

 Speaking on the same show, Founder of Roar Time Ministries, Prophet Ekow Daniels advised society to also hold men accountable for issues of infertility and childlessness in marriages.

According to him, there could be a medical condition wrong with either of the parties and both of them must tackle the issue from all angles including going for medical check-up rather than shifting blames.

“The accountability and responsibility should be built from the home first. Let’s not put all the burden on women when there’s no child in marriage.”

“There are a lot of men by lifestyle who also become the problem but society seems to shield the man,” Prophet Daniels stated.

He also advised couples who only resort to churches in these situations to also deal with it medically because the two work together to achieve a great outcome.