You may assume that when a best friend finds love you'll be overjoyed for her. In reality, inside you may feel bereft as she enthuses about having finally met The One. After all weren't you two supposed to be soulmates? Yes, of the platonic type, but it felt like no one else could ever share what you two have. Then he had to come along and spoil it! If you're feeling rather rejected since your best friend landed her Mr Right, try these tactics from behaviour expert DR PAM SPURR to smooth over the ripples in your friendship. Deep down do you really wish it had happened to you? Are you feeling particularly lonely? If so, this is more about you getting out there on the dating scene, than her finding love. Are you over reliant? Sometimes we become over-reliant on friends to meet all of our needs and happiness - it's easy to slip into a situation where a best friend becomes your entire world. You hinge all of your 'fun' on being with them, they're your only confidante and you think you could never be this close to anyone else. Having a best friend is fab, but they shouldn't be the be-all and end-all of your happiness. Get busy with new things This is the perfect time to finally do things you've left to one side as you spent all your spare time with her. Why not go out with that new colleague or begin that evening course you've had your eye on. Use this time to discover new elements to your character and enjoy new interests that you'd left by the wayside when always with her. Resist getting your own back There may be times you feel pretty put out by her droning on about how wonderful 'the One' is. It's tempting to criticise him when really there's no grounds for it. Or to rub her nose in the fact that you're always on the phone to new friends nowadays. Resist trying to get your own back by attempting to hurt her feelings. For instance, if you do find him overbearing and she's oblivious to this and asks why you always go quiet when he's around, tactfully mention you find it difficult to express yourself with him. Learn when to speak up If she does things like dump plans with you at the last minute because Mr Right wants to sweep her off somewhere, speak up and set her straight. All it takes is calm but direct acknowledgment that your time counts, too. Flag this up saying: 'I said no to other things due to our plans, so I'm not happy about you backing out now.' By highlighting her bad behaviour as it happens, it will give her much-needed food for thought. Make use of her new man Now that they're well and truly together, definitely ask if he has any single friends kicking about - there might be some 'double dating' opportunities around the corner. When you just have to let go It can be hurtful but occasionally necessary to accept that some friends get so hung up on a new romance that they aren't worth keeping as friends. If she repeatedly lets you down, and is only focused on her relationship, and never bothers to ask about you and your life it may be time to cool things.