According to the Babycenter website, approximately 21 percent of women experience a decrease in the sex drive after having children. This is due to many factors, including fatigue, lack of time and the subconscious fear of getting pregnant again. Fortunately, there are a variety of ways to increase the intimacy in the bedroom---and your libido. Step 1 Switch to a brand of birth control that increases testosterone amounts a bit. The Good Housekeeping website states that even a small amount of the male hormone testosterone can help improve a woman's sex drive. Step 2 Clean up your bedroom. Dr. Debby Herbenick writes in "Woman's Day" that cognitive distractions, such as a cluttered room, can affect sex drive. Remove anything that can pose a distraction or that reminds you of work or household responsibilities. Step 3 Consider taking an antidepressant if suffering from post-partum depression. Because depression can have harmful effects on the libido, it is important to discuss medication options with a doctor. Step 4 Deal with anger. According to the "Woman's Day" website, repressed anger can significantly lower a woman's sex drive. Whether you are frustrated that your husband won't change the baby's diaper, or bothered by something more serious like past betrayals, find the source of anger and deal with it. Communicate with your husband or go to couple's counseling to work through issues. Step 5 Use a localized estrogen suppository to increase sexual arousal. These creams, rings or tablets are inserted directly into the vagina and release small amounts of the estrogen hormone over a period of time.