It still surprises me how some people downplay the intense emotional pain of heartbreak—and how that pain, when mishandled, can push someone to cause serious physical or even spiritual harm.

I often say this: matters of the heart can quickly become matters of life and death. So we must never treat them lightly—especially when it comes to toying with people’s emotions, resources, time, or trust.

I was triggered to write this after reading about a shocking incident involving a 30-year-old woman arrested by the Ghana Police for pouring acid on her estranged boyfriend.

According to the police, the man had ended the relationship. But the woman made an unannounced visit to him. While driving her home, she brought up the break-up again. When he confirmed it for the third time, he asked her to get down and walk the rest of the way because the road ahead was rough. That’s when she attacked him with acid.

It took passersby to rush him to the hospital. The woman fled the country but was arrested on Tuesday, June 3, 2025.

Now, I’m not making excuses for anyone, but let’s be honest—why expose yourself to someone who’s clearly hurting, especially so soon after a breakup? Inviting them to your home and agreeing to drive them somewhere could be risky.

I once ended a relationship for good reason—and I’ve never regretted it. I had left some personal items with her, and when I asked to send someone to collect them, she insisted I come myself. I refused. Eventually, she had no choice but to send them.

That decision wasn’t because I thought she was violent, but because I understood the emotional weight of heartbreak. I chose wisdom and safety. And trust me, even later, I had to deal with spiritual battles I believe were tied to that breakup.

I’m not saying you should be hostile to an ex. Just be wise. In the heat of a breakup, emotions can run wild. Anger simmers. Evil thoughts emerge. Some people lose control. So avoid physical contact if you can, at least until emotions settle and healing begins.

Not everyone has the emotional strength to process rejection or loss without lashing out. And beyond avoiding face-to-face meetings, stay alert and protect your space, because the harm may not come directly. People plot. People send others. People act out.

In love and in loss, choose wisdom over sentiment. It could save your life.

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The Writer, Ebenezer Afanyi Dadzie, is a Broadcast Journalist with Myjoyonline.com.

Email: enadadzie@gmail.com