11 years ago, UK resident Amethyst Realm gave up on relationships with men in order to “have sex with ghosts”. Now she claims to have started a “pretty serious” relationship with an incorporeal being; she even hopes that there is a way for the pair to start a family together.

Amethyst is a 30-year-old spiritual guidance counselor who claims that over the last decade, she has had 20 different sexual encounters with ghostly apparitions.  During a recent trip to Australia, she claims to have met her new long-term lover. Amethyst claims that the spirit returned with her to the UK. 6 months after their first meeting, the relationship is still going strong. While she is not able to see her ghostly lover, she says she is able to communicate with it and also engage in intercourse. While she is not able to say for certain if the ghost is male or female, she believes that the connection between the two is genuine.

“One day, I was walking through the bush, enjoying nature, I suddenly felt this incredible energy. I knew a new lover had arrived,” the young woman said. “It’s pretty serious, in fact we have been thinking about having a ghost baby. I know that sounds crazy but I’ve been looking into it and I don’t think it’s totally out of the question.”

Amethyst believes that it is possible for some women to be impregnated by ghosts, but because the human body and mind are not able to properly process the experience, the pregnancy will not go to term. In fact, she believes that phantom pregnancies can be explained as “ghost babies” that are trapped in human bodies.  Still, she remains optimistic that she can find some way around these limitations: “I just haven’t worked it out yet.”

The spiritual guidance counselor claims she has always been able to communicate with ghosts; however, her first experience with paranormal sex was unexpected. She describes how she felt a presence in a home she moved into with her fiance 10 years ago. When her fiance went away on a trip, she decided to try and take things further.

“It was kind of like a weight, I felt a pressure on my thighs. At the same time physical breath, and stroking,” she described the experience.

 After this occurrence, Amethyst believes that the ghost revealed itself to her fiance.

“I think it was in love with me too and it wanted me to end the relationship,” she recalls.

For Amethyst, her encounters with various spirits are always unique: “You can always feel the difference, it’s the same with different humans, they have different energies.”

Christopher French, a professor of psychology, believes he can provide a rational explanation for the experiences Amethyst has had: “‘Sleep paralysis is common — 20 to 40 percent of people say they’ve experienced it — and is the state between sleep and wakefulness when you realise you can’t move. In a smaller percentage of the population, you get associated symptoms that can be very scary. One that’s commonly reported is a sense of a presence — something or someone in the room with you.”

“You can also get hallucinations where you see dark shadows or monstrous figures, you can get auditory hallucinations — you hear voices, footsteps — and also tactile hallucinations. You can feel as if you’re being held, you might feel as if someone is breathing on the back of your neck, you can feel as if you’re being dragged out of the bed,” French added.

So are Amethyst’s experiences simply sleep paralysis? She certainly doesn’t think so, and will continue to explore the possibility of having a child with her ghostly lover.