We hear you, there’s nothing better than getting lucky. However, having great sex is about more than just luck. It’s about taking the initiative to add some heat to the proceedings so you can seduce her with sizzle.

Your role as the guy—the one who often makes the first move to initiate sex—can feel like pressure. But, it doesn’t have to. When you know a few easy strategies to make sex better, you’ll discover a confidence that enables you to transform the action into a smouldering fire. It can be as simple as adding an element of surprise, changing up your usual tempo, or introducing a little dirty talk.

Whether you’re single or married, these 10 expert tips will help you have the hottest sex ever. They’ll boost your confidence, create some heat, and get her ready to fan your flames. Should you have the fire department on speed dial, just in case?  Definitely.

1. Focus on foreplay
Want to have sex that lasts all night? Engage in lots of foreplay. You’ll get more time in the sack with your lady, and, once you’ve started the main act, it will be a more lengthy session.

2. Turn her on
In the heat of the moment, come right out and ask exactly what’s going to turn her on. When your goal is to please her, she’ll notice and be more likely to return the favor.

3. Get dirty
Use dirty talk for bedroom communication. It’s sexy for her to hear your desires, and for her to tell you hers. Add naughty, uninhibited language to that, and you’ll create even more smoke.

4. Feel the Sensation
Get out of your head and concentrate on what’s right in front of you. It’s easy to do, and be safe with condoms made from Polyisoprene, a soft new non-latex material, they let you feel everything in a natural way, which makes it easier to just be in the moment.

5. Try a quickie
The rush of doing the deed somewhere unconventional can make it hotter. Whether it’s a stairwell or just your own kitchen, try taking sex to a location that will make it a little more exhilarating. Just don’t break any public decency laws.

6. Push the bounds
Heat up your usual routine with some fresh new moves. It can be as easy as taking the action into the shower, trying an alternative position, or watching porn together—anything that will push your boundaries and hers.

7. Be slicker
Make sex much more satisfying by using lubricant. Keep your momentum on track and reach for Extra Lubricated condoms. They’ll work to enhance your pleasure and hers.

8. Hold back
Extend the pleasure with delayed—and more intense—gratification. Tease her before you please her. And, when you’re about to climax, pause or slow down before starting up again and letting yourself go.

9. Accept help
You may be surprised, but she would happily bring her sex toys to bed with you. They can spark flames during foreplay, leading to more intense action with you. Or, try a couples vibrator and share in the pleasure.

10. Offer a surprise
Who doesn’t like a sexy surprise? Catch her off guard with a midday text telling her what you’re going to do to her later, prepare a candlelit bedroom, or wrap up a box of erotic lingerie. She’ll thank you in kind.