Some married women may discover, much to their dismay, that the age-old aadage that men are always eager for sex is only a myth. Husbands sometimes retreat not only from the sex act itself, but from talking about it. According to HealthDiscovery.com, keeping the passion alive in a long-term relationship takes work, and that requires communication. There are steps you can take to get your husband to talk about sex. Step 1 Select a quiet time when you won't be interrupted to initiate a conversation about sex with your husband. Married couples are oftentimes busy with outside jobs, raising kids, a never-ending list of chores around the house. It's understandable that your husband may think of dealing with sexual issues as just another stress inducer that will take up precious time and what little energy he may have left. Step 2 Bring a positive attitude, honesty and balance to the table as you discuss the subject of sex with your husband. For example, state clearly what you miss or what you would like, as opposed to what he is doing wrong or not doing at all. While defining your concerns are important, make sure you don't limit the conversation exclusively to your needs and desires. Be willing to ask questions about your husbands needs and what you can do to improve your sex lives. Step 3 Show an understanding and nonthreatening demeanor so your husband may be more willing to open up and discuss topics that may be difficult to talk about. For example, your husband may be embarrassed to discuss his erectile dysfunction and/or a lack of desire. Step 4 Listen closely to your husband when he opens up and shares his thoughts and concerns about sex. Resist the temptation to interrupt and jump in with a counterpoint or a solution. This is your opportunity to gain a better understanding of his thoughts and feelings about your sex life. Step 5 Cuddle up to your husband without any further expectations. Nonverbal communication can be very effective as you work to jump-start a lackluster sex life. You may feel more comfortable by introducing physical intimacy outside of the bedroom. In addition, taking a break from the day-to-day grind of family life by going out on a date can help rekindle the flame and remind both you and your husband why you got together in the first place.