Being single for a female often comes with a bit of fear and also a stigma. We are often treated as if there is something fundamentally wrong with us if we are single and not taken.

Relationships come and go, and single-dom is usually never a permanent state of existence for us ladies, so take your single time to love yourself, not be needy and desperate and find your own contentment.

• Now is the time: If you ever wanted to lose weight, get in shape, or get a new wardrobe then get off your couch, put your tissue down and start exercising and watching your diet. Why not?

• Happily single means loving yourself: Devote your time to your passions, dreams, and goals without distractions. It is your time…freedom! Whatever it is that you are passionate about, make it happen. 

Because being single is often temporary, take advantage of this break in time and chase your dreams. This way, you will not lose them if or when you find love again.

• No more compromise: Being single, you no longer have to compromise yourself or any part of you to fit into the mold that someone else wants to create for you. You get to live your life for a time by your choices. 

This allows you to create a life that is so awesome you don’t want to be rescued from it. No need for a prince now because you are a full-fledged independent classy woman all on your own. 

Getting to this place is what will bring you a strong man, one that can be with you and not be intimidated.

• Happily single will lead to happily taken (if that is what you want): To be happy in your future relationship, you must first show yourself you can be happy with yourself. 

You need to show yourself there is no need to be needy and desperate for a relationship because you can support yourself, pay your own bills, raise your own kids, take care of your own car and find your own sense of community, friendship and happiness. 

You are sassy and can create a life where love will expand and bring to you the life of your own design.

• Alone does not mean lonely: You do not need a significant other to have a significant life. Whatever and whoever you were in your previous relationship is still who you are. You are not a diminished version of you because you no longer have a partner.

In fact, you have the opportunity now to be even more of you. Be happy, at least you didn’t lose you. Enjoy who you are and all that love you used to give out to your partner, you can now spoil yourself with it.

• Be Loving: When you can be alone and be happy, you will remember that you are beyond loveable. Be loving. Be loving to everyone and smile, because love is contagious. 

You will find that your life opens when you are loving; you stand tall and you smile. Loving people are more successful; loving people are more stable and loving people are happier. 

Let yourself sparkle and shine. Whatever parts of you that you had to suppress while in a relationship, you are now free to express without reservation.

Be brave, my single ladies. It is a beautiful and ever creative time in your life. It is your time. Alone time is hard to come by in life, so take advantage of it and love yourself crazy. 

Spoil yourself, make your life completely decorated and designed by you. Express yourself, find and live your independent significance. It’s all about you.