Keeping a marriage relationship alive and vibrant requires work. It may be surprising to some but as years pass in a marriage, the effort required to keep it alive and vibrant increases. Here are some marital tips to help make the work a little easier for the women. These relationship tips for women are essential building blocks for keeping your man interested and keeping your marriage alive. We know that a man can lose interest in the woman he loves, even his wife. Many women are tearful as they recount the last few months (or years) of their marriage that seemed so wonderful in the beginning. Slowly, they notice that he has stopped touching them as often and seems uninterested in being with them or even staying married. They pass each other in the kitchen, and he avoids eye contact and simply continues walking…just like she doesn’t even exist. But it doesn’t have to end that way. You can save your marriage. With a smile and a wink!! Here’s what a husband needs: In a marriage, there is a level of vulnerability that a man has with his wife that he doesn’t experience with anyone else. Because she is, or has been, the focus of his attention and the primary source of his self-esteem, there are two things that always arouse his desire for her. 1) His desire is aroused when his wife does things that make her happy. There is only one goal for a husband in a marriage- to make his wife happy. If he feels that he can make her happy, then he feels strong and powerful. The secret is that he wants her to do things for herself that make her happy and not simply rely on him to fill that role. A wife who puts too much pressure on her husband to make her happy will slowly strangle the romantic feelings that he has for her. Take the initiative today and smile. 2) Men need women to remember to flirt It’s easy to get comfortable in a marriage. Don’t get too comfortable. Every woman knows in the early stages of dating to flirt with a man. Smiling at him, paying attention to his stories and batting your eyelids all may seem silly….but they work. After all, if this behavior were so silly, would you want his secretary doing those things to him? Whether it seems fair or not, women are the ones who initiate a relationship through their flirting. Men may approach a woman, but it is usually after he feels he has received some signal (invitation) from her. Wives who wait for their husband to be romantic don’t understand that men respond to a woman’s cues. If you stop flirting, for a long enough period of time, it’s likely that he’ll notice some other woman who is willing to fill that void. It doesn’t mean that it’s right, but he needs your admiration more than you realize. Take the initiative and give him a sexy wink. Other reasons why husbands lose interest in their wives: * If the wife has let herself go such as physically and does not bother to put on makeup every so often; brush her hair and look reasonably neat. * A woman who is constantly nagging the minute her husband is around her and never compliments him for anything he does do. * A woman who spends too much time with her children and seldom gets a babysitter so her and her husband can go out together on the occasional night. There is no excuse not to get a babysitter because if it is about not being able to afford a babysitter then one can trade off with a friend who has children. * Women who know their libido is low and do not seek help from their doctor. Some women going through perimenopause and menopause can have a very low libido and it is up to her to assure her husband it is not about him, but her hormonal changes and to educate him on the subject. * Putting down a husband in front of friends or taking 'shots' at him every chance she can. * Being disinterested in what he has to say and expects him to listen to everything she has to say. * Then there are simply some men who lose interest in their wives for no reason other than wanting to prove to themselves other women are attracted to them. * There are some men who find they do not enjoy married life and have fallen out of love with their wives. * There are also some husbands that cannot commit to a very ill wife and forgets the passage in their marriage vows 'until death do us part.'