Actor, television and radio producer Reggie Spice has raised questions about the relevance of promise rings in African relationships, asking, “is it even an African thing in the first place?”, as he challenged the idea that they are a necessary part of the culture.

Speaking on BrotherHood in the studios of Joy Prime, he said he does not believe a promise ring is essential, stating, “I don’t even think it’s necessary to give a promise ring”.

Reggie emphasised that actions speak louder than symbols. He suggested that a man showing serious intent by visiting the woman’s family and presenting a bottle of schnapps is “more than a promise ring”. According to him, this approach focuses on meaningful gestures rather than material expressions.

A lawyer who joined the discussion also highlighted the possible legal implications, saying, “The promise ring is a contract you signed with a person that you will marry the person. That’s a serious action you have taken”. He cautioned, “If you don’t go through the marriage, the person can sue you for breach of promise to marry”.

Reggie’s advice aligned with the lawyer’s position. He noted, “if you don’t know where you are going to get the money, why are you even going for list in the first place? Because going for list is a serious stage, right?”. The lawyer added, “Don’t go and promise things”, if you’re not truly serious.

As the lawyer put it, “the ring you give is a serious commitment”. He urged individuals to think carefully before making promises, stressing that a promise ring is not just a symbol but a binding commitment with legal implications.

Reggie concluded that if a man is truly ready, financially prepared and has initiated family discussions, then “you can now give her the promise ring and tell her in May, I’ll marry you”. He said this makes the gesture meaningful rather than an empty promise.