Audio By Carbonatix
He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not. The sacrificial flower is plucked bald and flower petals are strewn about the floor; it’s a familiar feeling for most people — wanting. A recent study of female Facebook users found women enjoyed the uncertainty. Yes, ladies, we relish the tease.
When it comes to matters of the heart apparently our hearts defy our unwritten social contracts. Typically, if you like me, I’ll probably like you back. If you are mean to me, I’ll probably be mean to you. Sociologists call this the reciprocity principal, which essentially means humans respond in kind. However, women in the study were doubly attracted to men when they were uncertain whether or not the man had a crush on them. Furthermore, the women were not just attracted to these men, but the women also reported being in a happier mood.
Now some parts of the reciprocity study still held true. When women were clearly liked by a guy, they liked the guy back. Additionally, when men showed average interest, the women too returned that average interest.
Bear in mind, this study was small and there was no offline interaction between the men and the women in the study. Plus, the study did not analyze the reverse scenario, namely are men equally intrigued by a woman whose affections are uncertain.
Why uncertainty drives women wild is unclear. Certainly, from a reproductive standpoint it does not make a lot of sense. A man that plays mind games is not going to make a great father for our offspring. Perhaps, though, there is something that happens on a chemical level, which drives us towards these mystery men. In recent years, anthropologist Helen Fisher has studied our brains on love. Her findings indicate according to brain scans, love areas in our brains are associated with addiction. Perhaps during the lust phase our brains get the obsessive-compulsive, addictive-like high from the fantasy of Prince Charming.
Ultimately, genetically speaking, what may get men in the “relationship door” is not going to keep them there. In fact, other research suggests women do think nice guys are sexier.
DISCLAIMER: The Views, Comments, Opinions, Contributions and Statements made by Readers and Contributors on this platform do not necessarily represent the views or policy of Multimedia Group Limited.
Tags:
DISCLAIMER: The Views, Comments, Opinions, Contributions and Statements made by Readers and Contributors on this platform do not necessarily represent the views or policy of Multimedia Group Limited.
Latest Stories
-
Eviction notice leaves retired, serving railway workers in Kumasi in limbo
18 minutes -
Asiedu Nketia: Why I remain an unrepentant Nkrumahist
38 minutes -
Kudus, Djiku return a boost to Black Stars – Agyemang-Badu
57 minutes -
‘If the world, Africa honoured Nkrumah as the Millennium Man, why are we not doing same?’ – Asiedu Nketia
59 minutes -
Yaw Preko backs renewed push to revive Colts football
1 hour -
UMB Speed Stars defeat Black Stars Legends 6-2 in friendly
1 hour -
Dafeamekpor hails Kwasi Pratt Jnr as ‘scholar of formidable proportions’
1 hour -
The BECE exam and placement conundrum: Necessary evil or failing system?
1 hour -
‘Who did this to you and what was your crime?’ – Father grives over late Ivan Baidoo
1 hour -
Israeli strikes kill three people in Gaza, medics say
2 hours -
Tribute, tears flow as family bids farewell to 20-year-old law student
2 hours -
2026 World Cup: Why pay a purse holder $10,000? – Assafuah questions Black Stars spending
2 hours -
Stakeholders call for coordinated response to adolescent health challenges
2 hours -
CNN and MS NOW say reporters denied White House access after Trump banned some media outlets
3 hours -
Mahama directs AMA, sister assemblies to prevent renewed dumping at Agbogbloshie
3 hours