Want him to see you as girlfriend material—or just convince him you’re going to be awesome in bed? Cribbing this skill will send the message loud and clear. Dave Salmoni, host of the new show Expedition Impossible, gives us a very revealing peek into the male mind. Ask any woman what she’s looking for in a mate and she’ll probably rattle off a checklist of must-haves that’s totally unique to what every other woman has on her list. But there’s one characteristic that’s in practically every man’s top five: being adventurous. How come? All men crave adventure and a lot of guys (incorrectly) assume that settling down with a woman and feeling comfortable and stable in a relationship means giving up the possibility of adventure. (Hey, watch enough sitcoms and it’s hard not to feel that way.) Which is why, when a woman comes along who not only makes us feel like we won’t have to give up leading an adventurous life, but also inspires and encourages us to do more adventurous things with them, it’s hot. Really effing hot. It all boils down to showing him that being with you will never be boring. Men never want to be bored in their relationships. And adventurous women are never boring. And I’m not just talking about exploring mountain peaks (though yes, a girl who does that is very, very cool, in my opinion). But not all men want to explore mountain peaks and they may have a different idea of adventure. Maybe it’s wild sex, maybe it’s trying exotic foods, maybe it’s sneaking into an exclusive club, or maybe it’s deciding where to go the day before you leave for vacation. What I’m saying is that you don’t need to necessarily put yourself in harm’s way to prove you’ve got an adventurous streak. The trick is to show him that you’re open to new experiences and going out of your comfort zone. So suggest splitting the fish head soup and be game when he tries a kinky new position. It seems small, but those things send the message that you are fearless and confident, and that we’ll never have to choose between you and having fun. And did I mention sex? Well, it’s an important part of this whole idea. Men have an evolutionary desire for multiple sex partners. But a woman who’s adventurous can essentially fulfill his need to be with multiple women. If you’re game to try new things in bed, then you can provide that variety that he’s hardwired to crave. The bottom line is that if you show a man that you have this trait, he’ll cross deserts, climb mountains and fight raging rivers to catch your heart. Source: Cosmopolitan