Patriarchy and misogyny are endlessly interesting. They are founded on women’s status as beneath men. Patriarchal society socializes men to disdain, despise and demean women all while desiring them and elevating men who score with women.

Go figure. For this reason, men marrying women they hate is far from unusual. Social media has exposed this phenomenon even more. Let’s talk about some subtle and not-so-subtle signs that your man hates you.

Never has time for you

Your partner should enjoy being in your company, and enjoy spending time with you outside of sex. If your partner only has time for you when they’re getting sex out of it, they may hate you, they certainly don’t like you. People who like you, enjoy spending time with you. If they also consistently make a point to avoid you when in the company of other people, that may be a red flag.

This may also look like them keeping you out of their life so that you don’t interact with their side of life. They don’t introduce you to their friends, colleagues, or family. Your lives

Deliberately embarrasses you

The most type of video in this “your man hates you” genre involves men embarrassing their partners in public. Men making their partners the butt of the joke and refusing to respect their wishes. There are numerous videos where men smash cake in their partner’s faces even after their wives expressly tell them not to. If your partner makes a point of ignoring your wishes and making a fool of you in public, they may hate you.

You always irritate or annoy them

If your partner constantly criticizes you and appears to be irritated by you all the time, they may hate you. This often looks like nothing you do pleases them, they blame you for everything wrong with your relationships, every conversation turns into a fight or argument and you just irritate and annoy them. Everything about you just seems to rub them the wrong way. This may also be accompanied by bursts of rage over small things as well as spiteful, sarcastic, hurtful statements.

Demeans and belittles you

If your partner demeans and belittles you and the things you like, including your views, hobbies, achievements etc. They don’t take anything you do seriously and actively devalue the things you value. If something bothers you and you tell them, they dismiss it. If you set boundaries, they ignore them and do whatever they want regardless of your wishes. When you’re winning in life and people praise you, they belittle it and suggest it’s not as significant as you and others think. They certainly don’t support your goals. Overall, they just want you to feel bad about yourself.

Zero affection

If they make no effort to show you affection in direct and indirect ways, they may hate you. I’ve heard of women who dated men for years who made no effort to take them out even for something like lunch or dinner. Zero dates. Then there’s also the lack of physical affection and intimacy outside of sex. They don’t want to kiss you or hold your hand or just be affectionate outside of sex.