Hello Edem and your Home Affairs crew,

I do not miss Home Affairs…In fact, I can say I am your most loyal listener...I have also sent a number of our twin up photos. I hope we win although we have a lot of challenges. We are very good friends who care about each other but we are always at each other’s throat.

Unless we are talking about somebody or something somebody did that we both do not like, we just can’t seem to have a meaningful conversation. It will always end up in a fight or an argument. We both don’t just seem to care about the fact that we have an emotional connection. We tell each other off so hard, walk away in anger and sometimes stay for days without talking and even getting intimate.

Whenever we have an argument or a fight, we hardly discuss or seek to have conversations to resolve them. Somehow, we start talking again after some days of quiet and anger. Not too long after, that we will get back into another fight.

What’s interesting is that, when I am out and I find something that I think will suit him, I would buy it for him even if we are not on talking terms and he does same. If we have an event to attend within that period, we would wear the same clothes if we have to and drive in silence, act in public and come back home. Sometimes, we even eat together; all I have to say is food is ready and we would eat together and go our separate ways till it resolves somehow.

We are both high fliers on our jobs and both in managerial positions. We both sing in the choir and we quite often do duets. But I just can’t figure out why we fight so much. We are intolerant of each other but I believe we are friends. When we are good together, we go playing tennis, we go shopping and we even do a lot of obstacle courses together…

I must say that we have quite some time on our hands because our children are not with us often, we also take regular short trips on weekends but we often come back angry with each other but we do it again and again. It’s been like this for four years.

Does it bother me, yes it does. I get tired of the arguments and fights but it keeps happening…

How could be friends, have all these great connections yet fight so much?

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