Lady Rev. Adelaide Heward-Mills of the Light House Chapel International has urged Ghanaian couples to take the institution of marriage seriously and look up to God during hard times. Lady Rev. Heward-Mills who was the Guest of Honour at the opening ceremony of this year’s Joy Beauty and Bridal Fair currently underway at the Accra International Conference Centre admonished young people who are getting into marriage to do so with the desire to serve and not be served. She said “it is obvious to all of us that marriage is under attack and everything that God has made and God has instituted like marriage is being attacked by the enemy in no subtle way.” Lady Rev. Heward Mills explained that because people have departed from the "divine manual" that God has given about the institution and therefore marriages are not successful these days. She stated that Ghanaians must submit themselves to God’s word if they want their union to survive. “There is a cross in every marriage. There is a crucifixion in every marriage… the cross is part of every life… Therefore if you want a successful marriage, there is a cross and that cross is sacrifice.” She said the situation where couples look at what they can get from marriages instead of what they can give must stop. “Sometimes you have a need that you expect your partner to meet and he may not be around to meet it. Then you begin to sulk, you become something else because you feel that 'what I invested in, I am not getting [anything] out of it' but marriage is not an investment to get something out of. Marriage is to give yourself and as you give yourself, you encourage your partner to also give himself and God who is the manufacturer of marriage blesses it,” she stressed. Lady Rev. Adelaide Heward-Mills, who is the wife of the Presiding Bishop of the Light House Chapel International, Bishop Dag Heward-Mills said, due to the selfishness of people who enter marriage these days it is difficult to make things work. She therefore admonished couples to be selfless. “In order to safeguard the institution of marriage upon which nationhood is built, we need to sacrifice our desires, our expectations and decide ...what am I going to put in this thing that I’m entering that will make a difference,” she added.