Counsellor and relationship expert, Cyril George Carstensen Lutterodt, well known as Counsellor Lutterodt, says there are no red flags before marriage.

He based his claims on the fact that some people reveal their actual traits after marriage. For that reason, no individual is able to spot red flags in their partners.

Counsellor Lutterodt made these claims on Joy Prime’s morning show on Thursday when discussing how to deal with emotions in relationships.

"There are no red flags before marriage because marriage is an institution that you only experience the things in it. There’s nothing you can experience before marriage," he said.

A few years ago, the counsellor held a seminar and lectured young people on how and the need to identify red flags in their partners before marriage.

He has apologised after coming to the realisation that it is actually difficult to do that based on his experience.

Speaking about emotion management, the relationship expert stated that some people are unable to control their emotions because of generational change and advancement.

"Forty years ago, the training they gave them, this is their problem; they cannot manage themselves in the new generation because they were not introduced into the generation."

He has therefore advised young people not to desire marriage. Instead, they should allow marriage to look for them regardless of the circumstances. He said, "When you look for marriage, you’ll suffer."

Counsellor Lutterodt opined that the ability of a person to handle their emotions is subject to their logical reasoning and emotional balance, which will cause them to change their lifestyle.

Relationship red flags are warning signs that there may be unhealthy patterns or behaviours between you and your partner. They are major key things one looks out for before getting involved in a relationship with the opposite sex.

Oftentimes, especially in new relationships, lust and love can cloud your judgement, making it difficult to pick up on red flags. More well-known red flags may be abusive behaviour and aggression.

However, it is believed that every human being was uniquely created, and the weakness of someone might be the strength of another. Therefore, everyone ought to be treated differently and with special care.

Considering that fact, should red flags be deemed a necessity before and after relationships?