Counseling psychologist and ADR practitioner, Counselor Perfect, has stated that any marriage without conflict is either dead or slowly headed towards it.

She made the remarks on an episode of Let’s Talk on Joy Prime during a discussion on conflict management between couples. 

According to her, a certain level of conflict is necessary to test partners, see how they handle issues, and strengthen their bond.

“If you are married and there’s never been any conflict in your marriage, your marriage is dead. So conflict will come because you’re human. It’s how you solve the conflict when it comes that makes you stronger. It’s not the conflict itself,” she said.

Counselor Perfect explained that conflict between partners can be beneficial, as it helps couples bond and develop a better understanding of each other while resolving issues. 

She emphasised that listening to understand, controlling one’s tone, and being non-judgmental are essential in marital conflict resolution.

“Give grace to them, and watch your tone of voice when addressing an issue. You put yourself aside because you want to understand them, and put negative emotions away so that you address the problem and it will not resurface again,” she added.

Also on the panel, Counselor and Resident Pastor of Universal Gospel Center, Reverend Daniel Annan, supported her points.

He noted that couples should not hesitate to seek help when needed, particularly in cases of abusive partners.

“People should not be afraid to seek help. Don’t feel inadequate in seeking help. Just seek help and help will come,” he said.